HiS worDS vS MinE !

I got this from my friendster's bulletin board. For the record, i'm doing this entry due to my difficulty in sleeping tonight..

21 things girls don't realize....

1) Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about..

(this guy either he is a fool, haven't really make up his mind or simply a womaniser..)

2) Guys are more emotional than you think, if they loved you at one point, it'll take them a lot longer than you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

(oh really? maybe you should just stop trying..it works for me :) )

3) Guys go crazy over a girl's smile!

(no matter what we do, you guys will easily go crazy over it..!)

4) A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

(we like to maintain our friendship..we are just talking, no big deal ok!)

5) Giving a guy a hanging message like "you know what?..uh..nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking, and he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

(just to see how much you really care...)

6) If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't have to give advice.

(but giving a piece of advice, is one way to show you that we care..)

7) A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

(so, he did like me..hahaha)

8) Guy love you more than you love them!

(objection..this is soooooooooo not true!!)

9) Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole heck of a lot.

(or maybe he just learned the meaning of those words..)

10) If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about if for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time the girl.

(after that stupid act of yours, there will be no next time..if there is, consider yourself as lucky!)

11) If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and he is really thinking about something.

(or maybe he just bored..or thinking about other girls..??)

12) When a guy says he going crazy about the girl, he really is! Guys rarely say that..

(i guess this is true..i have a friend. He is extremely crazy for her!)

13) When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me.."

(then just say it..!)

14) If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

(does this mean, most of the time, guys just fooling around..??)

15) When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.

(something good, healthy and positive i hope..)

16) Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are mad confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

(only straight guys would say this..)

17) A guy would give the world to be able to read a girl's mind for a day..

(keep on dreaming guys!)

18) No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it!

(you forgot the 'e' word..)

19) Not all guys are rude!! Just because one is rude, doesn't mean he represents all of them.

(i'll try to keep that in mind!)

20) When a guy sacrifies his sleep and health just to talk to you, he really likes you and want to be with you as much as possible..

(again, my friend is a good example..ahaha)

21) Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you, he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life..

(guys, sometimes, something are just not meant to be..move on. Like we do :) )

DaWai KokOD

Dalam kesibukan menyiapkan kerja-kerja yang semakin menyemakkan otak, aku terpandang sekotak dawai kokod di atas meja. Lantas, aku teringat seorang bekas teman sepejabat yang baru sahaja resign. Dia yang menghidupkan semula perkataan dawai kokod. Idea pun tringgggg...

Boleh tak, kalau aku samakan pencarian someone special dengan dawai kokod?? Dawai kokod tersusun rapi, each of it seems to be perfect. Kita tak boleh detect di mana cacat celanya. Sampailah kita mula menggunakannya. Sekali ketip, ok. Dua kali ketip, masih berfungsi. Kali ketiga dan seterusnya..dawai kokod stuck, tak mengetip kertas, patah mungkin...sedar tak sedar, dawai kokod pun habis digunakan. What do we do next? Kita gantikan dawai kokod yang baru la...Gantian dawai kokod yang baru pun, belum menjamin ketipan yang sempurna. Katalah ada 10 deretan dawai kokod, takkanlah semuanya rosak. Mungkin satu atau dua sahaja yang tak boleh digunakan.

Ibaratkanlah, seorang lelaki mahupun perempuan seperti dawai kokod. Luaran nampak semuanya sempurna. Tak ternampak dan tidak terperasan kalaupun ada ketidaksempurnaan. The law is simple, it is becaue we like what we see! Sehinggalah kita mula menggunakan dawai kokod itu tadi, baru kita tahu ianya berfungsi atau tak. Begitulah juga, bila kita mula mengenali si dia barulah kita tahu sifat dan ragam sebenar. Sekali dawai kokod tersangkut, kita masih boleh bersabar. Dua kali sangkut, "mungkin tebal sangat"..tiga kali, "arghhh..bosannya, asyik sangkut, sangkut, sangkut...!!!".

Sekali si dia buat hal, tidak mengapa, masih dalam proses mengenali hati budi kononnya. Dua kali, "Ooo..boleh tahan minah / mamat ni..". Kali ketiga, " eee..masalah betul la mamat / minah ni..". Kali keempat.., "kau ingat kau sorang je ke, ada lagi yang lebih baik dari kau la...!". Seperti yang aku sering ucapkan pada kak salmi, "setiap manusia ada tahap kesabarannya kak..."..hahaha. Ada kalanya, sesuatu itu tidak berhasil, kerana kurangnya sifat sabar dan mahu memahami. We rather blame others instead of looking for our own mistakes or weakness. Siapa mahu mengaku kekurangan dan kelemahan diri sendiri,kan??

Andainya dawai kokod tidak mengetip dengan sempurna, lihat di mana puncanya. Mungkin kertas terlalu tebal. Kalau tebal sangat, kurangkanlah..Kalau dawai kokod stuck, check dulu..mungkin ada dawai kokod lama masih tersangkut di dalam stapler. Keluarkan dulu yang lama, barulah dawai kokod yang baru boleh berfungsi tanpa sebarang masalah. Jangan terus-terusan menekan dawai kokod. Mungkin stapler ataupun kertas yang ada problem!

Sebelum mencari kelemahan orang, belek-belek kelemahan diri sendiri. Mencari cacat cela luaran mahupun dalaman orang lain, merupakan salah satu sijil tanpa tauliah. Menuding jari pada orang lain, lebih senang dari menuding ke batang hidung sendiri. Mana mungkin menerima orang baru, seandainya dalam hati masih ada nama ataupun bayangan yang lama. Mana mungkin, usaha si dia berhasil, sekiranya yang terzahir hanya kekurangan dan kelemahan. Mana mungkin semuanya berhasil, kalau mengharapkan kesempurnaan..We have our own criterias when it comes to our special someone. Sebenarnya, itu semua alasan. Kita suka beralasan dalam semua hal. I'm definitely one of those people. Alasan itulah yang menyempitkan jalan, mengelirukan keadaan dan pencarian yang tiada noktah..! How can you expect something that is so perfect, while you have so many flaws? Do not expect others to understand you, if you don't even bother to try to do the same thing. Do not put your expectations way up high, because you never know, what people would expect from you..!

Jadi, aku akan mengadaptasikan hukum dawai kokod. Cuba mengenali sebelum membuat keputusan. First impression is important but do not easily fall for it. Maybe the person was nervous, so he might be acting a bit stupid or didn't know much to say. Kadang-kadang perlu juga lihat second or third impression. Sekiranya, impression pertama dan seterusnya sama, tanyalah hati sendiri, kalau tak boleh terima, just walkaway..itu lebih bijak dari terus memaksa hati!. Cuba memahami kemahuan, kelemahan dan kekuatan diri sendiri. But the most important part is, to at least give myself and who ever he might be a chance. Tapi tunggulah aku jumpa calon dawai kokod aku dulu ya..